Trying to arrange an acceptable visitation schedule during the holiday
season can be stressful, especially if tensions are high between you and
your child’s other parent. Fortunately, there are several things
that parents can do to help ease negotiations towards a mutually satisfactory
1. Be respectful: Even though you and your ex-spouse may harbor negative feelings towards
one another, it is important that you maintain a certain level of respect.
Negotiations will likely be much smoother if both spouses approach the
situation in a respectful manner.
2. Celebrate the holiday twice: Rather than requiring your children to travel between households and only
spend a half day with each parent on a holiday, try arranging for your
children to spend one day with one parent and a close by date with the
other. For example, have your kids spend Christmas Eve with one parent
and Christmas day with the other. This way, your children will have the
opportunity to spend quality time with both parent without the stress
3. Ask your kids: Asking your kids for input on how they want to spend their time during
the holidays can help you accommodate their desires and find out what
is important to them.
4. Be willing to compromise: Can’t have the kids for Christmas? Accept to have them on New Year’s
Eve instead. Being flexible can go a long way and will likely improve
your ex-spouse’s willingness to extend the same courtesy.
5. Do not bring up old issues: If the task at hand is regarding establishing a visitation schedule, keep
your communication solely focused on achieving this issue. Bringing up
secondary or unrelated topics of contention can create hostility and be
counterproductive to your goal.
6. Plan ahead: Start talking about your holiday visitation schedule well in advance.
Establishing an arrangement ahead of time can reduce stress and provide
your children with a sense of stability.
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If you are looking to pursue a
modification to your visitation arrangement or are looking to separate from your spouse, an
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your chances of securing a desirable outcome for your situation. We understand
how emotionally distressing divorce can be, and we are prepared to do
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